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心理導航
ఱdίٟึɪᄿʹ؃ʾʑၑϓ̌f ܘ ε࢕ࢬே݊፭
ృவᅵɓ ࡈ ᆑ஝ۆ fһϞ ٫ޟdᑊ၈Ϟ͉ԫٙӲɛ
੽ʔܲࣛΫ࢕dӚ͉ԫٙӲɛʑܲࣛΫ࢕f ה ˸d
຅ֈɿ ࠅ Ӌɩ˃ ו ዄ࢕ࢬப΂eਞၾ࢕ࢬိԫࣛd
ɩ˃ᐼ݊ႭώeӚࣛගഃഃҬᔟɹપ୭fഐ ؈ dЧ
˷ɩ˃࿁ምேλdఱ݊࿁ֈɿʔλf
வ၇˃ֈᗫ ڷ ૱ဋٙ࢕ࢬdᕐ˙ேϞப΂d˼ ࡁ Ч
˷ே௘ɝəɓ၇ːଣႬਜjఱ݊dӊ ࡈ ɛίٟึΝ
ࣛҲစഹε၇ԉЍdίʔΝٙఙΥ ࠅ ҲစʔΝٙԉ
Ѝdӊ ࡈ ԉЍே ܘ ࠠ ࠅ f˼ࡁ ੶ʷəٟึԉЍd ۍ
૱ʷəɩ˃e˨ፋٙԉЍfΪϤdίவ၇࢕ࢬʕd
ӊ ࡈ ɛЧ˷ே ܘ ᎴӸdШӊ ࡈ ɛЧ˷ே ݺ ੻ ೨ܘ
߮f
怎樣才能使夫妻雙方從痛苦中解脫出來呢？
੬ԊႭd༆ཕᒔ඲ӻཕɛf࠯΋dЪ މ ֈɿd࿁І
ʉ ࠅ Ϟɓ܄ࡈᝈٙІҢ൙ᄆdܼ̍ႩٝeБ މ eಂ
ૐձɛࣸतᅄഃ˙ࠦٙ൙ᄆf ࠅ ٝ༸dɛೌҁɛd
ࠅ ኪึయࠠeଣ༆ɩ˃fவᅵٙయࠠձଣ༆dจբ
ഹટॶ˼ٙΌ௅dܼ̍ίЫ޶Ըೌ ج Ҝաٙॹᓃd
வᅵʑঐᏍп˼ʔᓙҁഛІҢf຅್dɩ˃Ϟ̮༾
ۆ ̤຅йሞədவʔ͉݊˖ࠅ ীሞٙ༑ᕚf
ԟჿdЪ މ ɩ˃d ࠅ Ϟɓࡈ ப΂ชdᏐ༈λλˀ޲
ɓɨjɩ˃e˨ፋவՇ ࡈ ࢕ࢬʕٙԉЍdЫҲစ੻
ϓ̌෗k˃ֈᗫ ڷ ݊ɛყᗫ ڷ ʕ௰ፋ੗ٙᗫ ڷ dЫ
ҳɝəεˇၚɢԸգᚐμk
Չྼdиဋ˃ֈே א ε א ˇήϞᓃːଣਪᕚf຅࢕
ࢬ̈ତиᅳɢe˃ֈᗫ ڷ иဋٙࣛ ࡉ dʔ׳ࠅ૝ʹ
The Psychological Pitfall of Family Tacit Violence
Couples not uncommonly antagonize deadly against each other – albeit without overt violence. Even tacit violence may induce
depression in the family members, making the situation worse, especially as no one seems to care at all. Tacit violence arises from a
“me first” kind of cognitive pitfall. One must never care only about one’s own self, e.g., the solution to vastly different bed-time hours
is much coordination and compromise. The wife must not impose her own expectation on the husband, otherwise he would care less
and less, especially if his blooming business demands more and more of his time. He should also understand his family role is just
as important as his role at work. She must recognize no one is ever perfect – she has to accept his “unforgivable” short-comings
– ironically, such acceptance encourages him to improve gradually. Use one’s heart when managing such family situations – even
if the husband indulges in gambling, the wife should still use kind words of concern – sooner or later, the husband understands.
Solve one’s own psychological problems first; then, overcome tacit violence with sincerity, peace and a compassionate touch!
ݴ dˈՉ݊ԟ၇վ༐ٙe̻ː᎑ंٙʹ ݴ fɓ֛
ࠅ Σ࿁˙ ༺ڌЫٙชաfᜫ˼€μٝ༸d͟׵˼
€μٙБ މ ഗЫிϓəᘌࠠٙːଣෆ࢔dԴЫٙ
ːᜳίဈАf
ชઋც ࠅ ͜ː຾ᐄfЫҎૐ࿁˙ϓ ޟމჿᅵɿdఱ
ࠅ ͜޴ᏐٙႧԊฮͪ˼€μdዧᎸ˼€μfˢ
νdϞɓЗɩ˃dΪ މ ʈЪ̰จdிϓၚग़Ꮐɢd
މ ə৚ᒒ೨߮dቮϓəष࿒ٙራ௹ٙʔԄ୦࿕fֈ
ɿʔଣ༆d މ Ϥ຾੬ձɩ˃јችfμಀ຾લཀɩ˃
ٙ௦ਗ਼ࣲiᄳཀ఻΅ᕎ੎՘ᙄࣣiҬཀɩ˃ఊЗٙ
ჯኬiย̈ʮ੏eՅɾ̘ᘉႭnn௰୞dʔШӚϞ
ࣖ ؈ dɩ˃ٙራ௹Б މ ᒔᜊ͉̋ᄒəf ܝ Ըdೌп
ٙμ̘Ӌп׵ːଣᔼ͛dːଣᔼ͛Ⴉ މ jμϞҵᝨ
ӮᙍහΣ{{Չྼdۃ ᗙՇЗֈɿɰϞவ၇හΣd
ːଣਪᕚᔶ᜗ʷfːषᒔ඲ːᖹᔼdᔼ͛ ܔᙄμҷ
ᜊ˙όᏍпɩ˃ҡራdးඎɛ׌ʷeиஈଣfμમ
ॶ˸ ܝ d ؈ ್̈ତə̙ఃٙᜊʷfϞɓ˂dɩ˃
ɦ̘͂௦ਗ਼d̒ցᒔ͊Ϋ࢕fֈɿ ܟ ੽ː᎘ৎdࣅ
ৎཥ༑͍ ೯ࠅЪdμ߉್ซৎəːଣᔼ͛ٙ׀ѓf
׵݊׳ɨཥ༑dഗɩ˃೯əɓૢ೵ ڦ j¨ፋฌٙϼ
ʮdЫίࡳ༁k༩ɪ༾Ցə ޟ ჿ௦๨kҢձՅɿே
ܘ ዄːf©ɩ˃ͭуΫూ¨Ң͍ίΫ࢕ٙ༩ɪdɓ
ึՅఱՑf© ؈ ್dࣛගʔၑ˄ ڗ dɩ˃τ್Ϋ࢕
əf
ྼስᗇ׼dվ༐ήe̻᎑ήeɛ׌ʷήஈଣ˃ֈʘ
ගٙਪᕚd݊ɓ၇БʘϞࣖٙλ፬ ج fவఱცࠅ ˃
ֈᕐ˙࠯΋༆ӔІʉٙːଣਪᕚdЇˇϞɓ˙ঐ੄
ႩᗆՑІʉٙਪᕚdԨҬՑ༆Ӕਪᕚٙ˙ό˙جf